Online Dating – Have Fun And Avoid The Lurking Dangers

Web Dating Fun

Meeting people on the internet should be enjoyable and fun. You should be able to meet lots of people, spend a little time getting to know each one, narrow them down to the few or the one you think you would like to at least be friends with, and then get to know him, her or them better. Finally you should arrive at a comfortable point where it is time to move to the next stage, personal contact.

The people you wish to eliminate early should recognize that it is not personal, it is not animosity, it is not rudeness. It is simply a matter of having too many options to follow up on every person in detail, and therefore having to exercise your discretion based on limited information together with gut instinct and/or intuition. You can’t spend too much time on every person you encounter so you have to devote the time you do have to those who spark some real interest in you. The people you must quickly reject, assuming you do so in a polite and fair manner, should recognize that it simply wasn’t their moment in time formeeting you.

And if you want to keep it enjoyable and fun, when you are the one being rejected you must recognize the same thing – it wasn’t your moment in time for meeting the person rejecting you. In the simplest terms, keep an open mind and remember that on the internet the options are so endless that the next great potential friend or partner is just around the cyber corner.

But there are other things to keep always in mind in order to enjoy your web dating experience instead of allowing it to become a disaster.

Web Dating Safety

As we have said, web dating can be, and probably 99% of the time is, a lot of fun. The following information is not designed to scare you away from web dating or any other use of the internet. Rather it is intended to help ensure that you never have to fall into that 1% of people who do not end up having a good experience dating on the internet.

There are three general categories of individuals (villains) you can encounter on the web who represent a danger or threat to your web safety, and to some extent to your psychological and even physical well being. These people are the basic scum of the earth and require your ongoing vigilance. We have divided them into three categories based not on the type of activity they engage in, which is similarly fraudulent activity based upon lies and deceit, but is rather divided according to the degree of harm they may be prepared or intending to inflict upon you. They are, from the most harmful to least harmful, the following:

1. Predators

These people are truly one in a million, and there is scant evidence that any of the serious predator crimes discussed under this heading have ever taken place in connection with a web dating site. But there is legitimate concern that it may happen someday. It is of course a major concern with similarly styled predators (pedophiles) preying on children on the internet. So don’t panic please, as owners of an International Online Dating Site, we just feel it our duty to advise you of any risks to be on the lookout for.

Predators have no conscience and are prepared, indeed planning, to do you grievous harm. They include men who have intentions of sexual assaults on unsuspecting women, and individuals, couples or groups who may wish to lure you, be you male or female, halfway around the world in order rob you, kidnap you, enslave you or worse. Of course they are a few individuals out of millions, and your chances of encountering one of them are extremely low, perhaps lower than being struck by lightning, but if you do you should know the signs to look for and the precautions to take.

Of course their plans are detailed and well thought out, so they will always have a good story to tell. Watch out for too good a story. They have an agenda, so watch out for someone who doesn’t want to adapt to your needs. They need to be in control and want to get you on their turf, so don’t let them set all the guidelines as to where your first meeting will take place, or when. If you aren’t easily controlled you make a difficult victim – it becomes easier to just pass on you and look for someone who does what they’re told. However, we are not experts on this subject. If you wish to know more one place you might start is a book called “Web Stalkers – Protect Yourself from Internet Criminals and Psychopaths”, written by Donald Andert & Donald K. Burleson.

2. Scammers

Scammers are individuals who do not have intentions of inflicting any physical damage upon you; they just want your money. Unfortunately these people abound on web dating sites. Quality Online Dating Sites are taking as many steps as possible to weed this type of member out. Unfortunately, it isn’t possible to catch them all in advance and we require some evidence that a member is scamming before we can refuse them or terminate their memberships. Websites that charge for services are going to be far more diligent about guarding against Scammers, and in fact the so called “Free” sites have some reason to welcome Scammers as they are the ones that really are best at appealing to many members and keeping the site busy. If you find someone clearly trying to scam you, report their activities to the website. If you aren’t satisfied with their response condsider moving on to another site. A Quality Site will also notify all members when a Scammer has been discovered to ensure that no one else is caught in their web.

Scammers are almost invariably (probably 95% of the time) registered on a dating site as a female member. That doesn’t mean they are female, frequently the person behind the female profile is a man, and just as frequently a couple, one man and one woman. The scammer will develop your interest in her, and then start to need your assistance, financial assistance specifically. At first, usually the amount she needs seems so small to you that you can’t believe it is a scam. In your mind it just isn’t enough to bother with. Maybe she developed a computer problem, and if she can’t get it fixed how can she continue to communicate with you? Maybe her Mom is ill and needs some medicine. She hates to place her problems in your lap, but she feels so close to you already, and she has nowhere else to turn. Of course you’ll send her the $50 needed to solve this problem. You love that she would ask you to help.

The tricky part is that it could easily be true, maybe her computer really did break down, maybe her Mom really is sick. You can’t be sure and to turn her down may just cost you the most wonderful chance at happiness you’ve had in years. It could all be true, and the scammer knows that, that’s why her/his story is so good. But it may not be true, and there may be 19 other guys falling for the same story at the same time. Suddenly that $50 is actually $1,000 and that’s a nice monthly income in China, and a small fortune in a place like Russia, Vietnam and most other third world countries.

And it could just be stage one of a plan to eventually invade your bank account or turn you into a monthly supporter. We have heard from good sources of female members on some Russian sites who have 4 or more “fianc├ęs”, each of whom is supporting her with a good monthly income.

Other scams involve simply getting you to provide your email address, which batched in with hundreds of others is a saleable commodity. Or to have you click on a link that will ultimately allow her/him full access to your computer, your identity, your personal information and ultimately, your bank account.

Watch out for a member who too quickly wants you to go directly to personal email contact. If in that first or second message you are already being asked to email her address from your own, ask yourself why? You can continue to message her from your Web Dating site for a long time at no additional cost. One of your greatest protections is just to stay on the dating site for communications until you are confident she is for real. The scammer desperately wants off site as quickly as possible, to avoid being caught and to get more personal. Usually a scammer will tire after maintaining contact on the site for even a few messages, because she/he wants easier targets to deal with. She/he will drop you and move on to easier fish to catch.

Of course watch out for someone who too quickly asks for money. In the case of our website, which focuses on Chinese women and International Men, we can confidently say that genuine and sincere Chinese ladies do not wish to lose face with you, and to ask a stranger for money is a loss of face. She will do almost anything to find other sources of money, friends or family, a second job, even selling something she owns, before she will lose face with you if she is genuinely interested in you for the right reasons. And we bet this is true of all women who really are interested in you, not only Chinese women.

3. Game Players

Game Players are website members who are not after your money, but they are after something of value – your pride, your psyche, your sense of well being. They are usually male members, but that statistic is becoming less true all the time. These are people who, for some reason, stroke their own egos by damaging yours. It’s okay to play games if the person on the other side is also playing games, and both sides are aware of it. But it’s quite another thing to deceive someone into trusting you just so you can deflate their pride or even break their heart. But for some reason the game player thinks that a “loss” for you is a “win” for him/her.

The variety of games being played is endless, far too varied for us to provide a list. In the case of male game players, probably the ultimate goal is a consensual sexual conquest. But it might be a final giving in to a request for sexy pictures, or something more innocent, like simply having a number of women’s interest, all wanting him at the same time. For the female game player the goal might be receipt of nice gifts, especially from several men at the same time, or maybe she finds self worth in being told she is loved and admired by as many men as possible. The point is, don’t let your self worth suffer at the hands of these people.

As the dating site it is almost impossible for us to control this behavior. We can’t terminate someone’s membership because another person complains of ill treatment unless that is backed up by solid evidence, and solid evidence is almost impossible to provide. Given undeniably clear evidence of improper behavior we will terminate a member’s status, but it almost always becomes one member’s word against another, and we cannot be the one to judge on that basis. However, we do offer one excellent tool to protect you from another member’s unwanted attention, your Blacklist. On Quality Online Dating sites you are entitled to place any other member you wish on your Blacklist and once on your Blacklist that other member is unable to contact you in any manner.

Watch out for someone who is too quick to express real love (why would someone seriously searching for a life partner jump into “love” overnight), someone who seems preoccupied while chatting with you (maybe he/she is chatting with several members at once), someone who doesn’t remember the things you’ve written in your profile or told him/her in a previous message (maybe he/she is juggling too many dates) or someone who says something in a chat or a message that doesn’t seem to be directed at you, like asking you about Sidney, Australia, when you live in Vancouver, Canada (maybe you’re being confused with someone else on his/her list of conquests).

Most importantly of all, when you find yourself the victim of a game player, remember that it is his/her fragile sense of self worth that brought you there, not your own. He/she is truly the “loser”. Don’t give up on the rest of the members of your favorite site because most of them are truly, sincerely and honestly searching for you. Take care to avoid the Predators, Scammers and Game Players, and Online Dating can be great fun and it can lead to a true and lasting relationship.

Online Dating Guide – What’s the Common Mistake Singles Make on Internet Dating Sites?

If you are new to internet dating, you will avoid some disappointment and hurt feelings when you understand a common mistake that many singles make on internet dating sites. Find out how common courtesy could correct this mistake and improve everyone’s online dating experience.

What is the online dating mistake that many singles make?

They don’t reply to emails sent from potential matches on dating sites.

This behavior is rude, as it may unwittingly hurt the feelings of the person who sent a heartfelt email in the hope of starting communication.

While I’m not condoning this common mistake, I’d like you to understand the common reasons why some some subscribers don’t respond to emails from fellow subscribers:

Popular subscribers often receive dozens of email inquiries each day — too many to answer unless it’s your job.

Busy professionals may not have time or interest to read and reply to each email they receive.
Some subscribers delete emails without a photo posted or without a great photo that speaks to them.
Some subscribers may notice spelling mistakes in your emails and think you’re a sloppy thinker.
Some may think that your love of cats is a turn off because they love dogs.
Some may be wanting more children and you wrote that you didn’t want more children.
Some may think you sound too boring or too adventurous to fit into their lifestyle.
Some may not like your hometown and you wrote that you won’t relocate.
Some are seeking a dark-haired match with dark eyes and you’re a blonde with blue eyes.

There are countless reasons why a dating site subscriber will not reply to your email or see you as their love match. Their reasons reflect a sorting process that each subscriber uses to search for a compatible match.

The purpose of exchanging emails on internet dating sites is to find your best love match–not to communicate with everyone who contacts you.

A savvy approach to online dating is to devote your time and energy in finding and communicating with a match who shows a mutual interest in getting to know each other.

No reply simply means no interest. Nothing personal. You’re simply one step closer to meeting your best match.

A healthy dating attitude is to think, NEXT, and keep searching for your mutual match among other wonderful singles on dating sites. This resilient, optimistic attitude gives you the persistence to keep searching until you find your mutual match.

How can we correct this common mistake?

If every dating site subscriber would send a polite “No, Thank You” in response to each email inquiry that doesn’t fit their dating criteria, this common courtesy could improve everyone’s online dating experience.

Your Online Dating Software Must Be Top Notch and Serve the Purpose Intended Well

Online dating business has become one of the most profitable business on the Internet. There are many factors responsible for this success; one of them is online dating software. To have a dynamic business, your online dating software must be top notch and serve the purpose intended well. There are so many kinds of online dating software. On the Internet, you will come across software developers selling their software. This is a good place to start looking, when you wish to start an online dating business. It is vital for you to look at the various features of the software. It will also be helpful to know what you have to gain when you purchase the software. I came across a software that sounded just right for your business. It is called the Hypertext Pre-Processor online dating software which comes with superior qualities that will role your business into action. It is a powerful match making software that will enable you create a dating web site within a few minutes. Because of its online installer, you can create a professional site. It is also possible to customize it using its integrated configuration manager. It comes with a web based graphical reporting system. It also comes with an administration control panel. This way, you will be in a position to view and analyze your business from any location in the world. This will enhance your strategic planning for the business.

On their site, you can view a short demonstration of how the online dating software works. You can also view all the features to ensure you understand what you will be getting from Hypertext Pre-Processor software for online dating. The Hypertext Pre-Processor software requires a one time payment. This way, the money you make from your web site is all yours. Also, when you acquire it, you will get a lifetime of free upgrades of the site. Their support team is only too glad to upgrade and maintain your site. The software is designed in a way that you are able to customize your site for every customer. This will make your site very unique. They have a provision for online advertising using email campaigns and others. The site promotion service will be very vital for your business. They provide it at very affordable prices. The following are some of the generic features for Hypertext Pre-Processor software solution. It comes with a template based design. This means that it can be modified easily by changing the design of the template. It comes with a multi language support. This will ensure that the world is brought together as languages are interpreted. The other features include customization email template, on fly new creation, ad banner management and many others.

The installation of the software is free. This software is bound to transform your new or old business. Do a similar analysis with other kinds of software and decide which deal sounds the best. Consider the price and go for the deal that is fair. They are very affordable and you will have no problem finding the most suitable software.